Anonymous asked: There's a pretty big difference between the "friend zone" and just not wanting to date you. The friend zone is when one party uses the other to do shit by saying they'd date them. They use the idea of a relationship as a bargaining chip. If they just went no I'm not interested in being romantically or sexually involved with you, that'd be one thing; but in personal experience the one just leads the other along because of the attention. It's in no way gender specific, I've done it and I'm a guy.
Ah, yeah I know. This blog is pretty old and I’m thinking of deleting it, mostly because I don’t use OKC much anymore. But yeah, I definitely feel like your definition is more like what it actually is. Manipulation of someone by using their feelings for you and that’s never okay.